Relationship is a Need Too
22.01.2016 | 11:42
by Andrea Vega
In this article I’ll go very far away, but it is important to know in order to understand what the love that is beyond the senses is formed, Have you ever thought that a person’s life is a constant movement towards various kinds of large and small goals that can satisfy a variety of needs?
And all of these needs are in a hierarchy of something more important, something contrary insignificant, that depends. And this is important, because otherwise the person would be a wedge, he or she simply would not choose where to go if there are equally important goals in different directions. More needs can be divided into simple, which can be quickly and fairly easily satisfied (food, sleep, sex, entertainment) and complex, which are also called values: love, trust, understanding, etc.
They typically include a number of actions, and the lives of people. So, at different moments in the life a variety of needs can come to the forefront and become the most important on the list of priorities. So, that’s what happens when you make a longer break between your relationships and have enough time to reinvent your life, to reinforce, rearrange and so on.
From this, the attention directed and where the person is moving depends very much. Once the need is satisfied, it immediately becomes relevant and the attention immediately is switched to something else. This happens automatically and so naturally that fewer people notice this mechanism.
So, an important point about the requirements is that they must be understood: as soon as you satisfy them in full, you are no longer interested in them. The same associations can be drawn with dating people. The longer you’re alone, the clearer the whole picture of your world will be.
Now slightly passing to the love issue, has anyone guessed how it is related to love? The fact is that love is the same need. Once a person gets all at once from the other person, especially if you do not put anything in it, then it turns out that he or she is not interested at all, another person loses the value. In the most difficult cases, people kill themselves because they do not see the point in life when they can not achieve this goal (to get this or that man).
However, when you are long enough alone, you learn the most essential tings that will be extremely useful in next relationships, namely avoiding certain extreme relationship patterns. They are:
- One-sided love
- A bright but short-lived love
- Long and strong, inaccessible love.
The best option is the one where both partners are somewhere in the middle between the extreme polarities and their relationships can range in one direction, then in another accordingly depending on the situation.
It is important to avoid sticking to any of polarities. It works well if both partners grow and develop in solitude for some time, by turns pulling each other when they meet. After this, you can not give the partner feel that he or she has received everything and throw something new, and others to break their patterns, develop a relationship, giving sometimes unconfirmed cause for jealousy, etc. This allows you to find something new in a man who had already begun to appear and makes it possible to extend the feeling on a quite new level. People become more mature and ready for better relationships after longer pauses.
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